I've been struggling with something lately. I've been on more of a quest lately to be happy with myself, and my body and be comfortable with how I look. I have absolutely no one in my life that ever tells me I don't look great. Other than my brother. He doesn't count though.
I know that the scale doesn't matter, but I still hop on about once a week just to see where I'm at. My body seems to like the range that I'm in now, fluctuating about 1-2 pounds either way, regardless if I've been good or I've had one or two too many cookies. I've been lighter than where I am, but I've also been WAY heavier than I am now. What does it matter if I'm not at my race weight from when I was training two hours a day? I can pick up really heavy things now. And then put them back down. Repeatedly.
I feel like this post is going to go all over the place, my mind has been in shambles for a number of reasons lately. Here's a picture. Pictures make posts easier to read.
This was after the 5 day detox. I was super strict for 5 days, and my abs came out to play a little bit. Was that cool? Sure. Did they go back into hiding again? Yeah. Do I look THAT different? Not really. If my abs were the only thing I got out of the detox (which is wasn't - I felt great overall), would it have been worth it? No.
Okay. Back to it. Lee pointed out the other night that golden oreos don't have any dairy in them. Gross? Yep. Did I eat one? You bet. Did I love it? Yep. Did I feel bad? Nope.
So here's what I'm getting at. I look good. I'm not a fitness model. I don't want to be a fitness model. I wear clothes most of the day. Why am I so obsessed with the idea of leaning out? What am I going to do with that once I am lean? Be super strict all the time and get a food complex again? What's the point? Will I be any happier? Here's some truths:
1. I love the gym.
2. I love food. All food. Except dairy. Dairy is the devil.
3. I feel good when I eat good food.
4. Unless I eat half my weight in junk food, I normally feel fine after a small treat.
5. Leaning out takes a LOT of dedication.
6. Lee honestly does not notice ever that I look any different. He thinks I'm perfect no matter what. No one else matters.
So here's my new mindset:
1. Keep lifting heavy things.
2. Start running again. Weekly. I'm a runner at heart and there's no sense depriving myself of that.
3. Therefore, balance the gym and the road.
4. Continue to eat healthy things.
5. Don't stress about treats. If I want to eat a cookie a day, I think I'll probably do just that.
6. Therefore, balance my food.
7. BE HAPPY with who I am and ENJOY everything I eat and do.
I feel like if I were to spend a bunch of effort trying to lean out, and then belean for a bit, I'm just going to get mad when I'm not lean anymore. For me, it's not maintainable or realistic. I don't want food to rule my life. Eating clean is so good for you and so healthy, but I don't think you need to be 100% clean to be healthy or happy. I know processed foods aren't good for me, but they're not going to ruin my otherwise healthy lifestyle every once in a while. I sometimes forget that I do what I do because I want to be healthy and not just because I want to look good. I need to be mentally happy as well, right?
Two more points:
1. This is what my stomach looks like on a normal day. WHY WASN'T THIS GOOD ENOUGH? It is now.
2. If all else fails, I know I have a good bum.
I also want to direct you to two posts:
1. From Peace, Love and Oats: Eat the Pizza. I LOVE this blog. You should too. One of my favourite posts from Katie.
2. From #StrongNotSkinny, just read her whole blog. I've always thought that fitness modelling is crazy and unhealthy because of the food cycling and restriction before a show, but Taylor rocks and she has a lot of advice. She's VERY real and honest too, so just check it out.
What are your thoughts on leaning out?
Have you ever struggled with an unhealthy relationship with food?